Styles of Combat
I’m not a person to fly off the hook easily. I don’t yell and scream, but usually to the other person’s frustration I am very measured in my sparse remarks, carefully choosing my words and regretting not much of anything. If I am the object of someone else’s wrath, I’m likely to just turn off my emotions and my communication, retreating into that dark self cave until I feel it’s safe to come out. When I re-emerge, I must gradually warm back up to the other person, concentrating hard on the positive things that define our relationship. I never forget what happened, but I manage to put it in storage. As I write this, I realize it’s exactly the way my father dealt with anger. It was maddening to me as a recipient. And now I behave the same way – not often, but from time to time.
Would it have been better if I had been born to someone who yelled and screamed, but then got it out of his system and went on as if nothing had happened? I don’t know and I’ll never be able to find out.
What is your fighting style? Was it inherited?