Saturday, August 30, 2008

To have and to hold

Yesterday marked 32 years of my marriage to the same person. That’s over half my life. That’s 10 years longer than I lived with my parents. Our lives are so inextricably intertwined at this point that I can’t imagine ever being with someone else.

The conversation the night before had gone something like this:

B: I haven’t gotten you anything for our anniversary.
D: I haven’t either.
B: Not even a card.
D: Me neither.
B: Let’s just agree on dinner, no cards, no presents, OK?
D: Sure.

So that’s what it was. No pomp and circumstance. Just a quiet dinner with good friends in a small restaurant on Capitol Hill. Pear salad with walnuts and blue cheese, wild boar with crab meat, and the most scrumptious chocolate dessert ever. A bottle of chilled white wine. It was indeed the perfect way to remember how many years we’ve spent together.

We toasted to “another 32" and realized we would all be in our 90's! But then, we just may make it. Who knows?


Anonymous lr said...

Congratulations to you both for your still growing love after 32 years and your good sense about how to celebrate the occasion. Here's to the next 32 years may they, too, be happy and healthy!

PS GREAT blouse!

11:32 AM  
Blogger WDCD/DRFS/aka Sue said...

Congratulations! You guys seem to enjoy every year more than the year before!

11:47 AM  
Blogger lettuce said...

lots of congrats. to both of you


12:39 PM  
Blogger Steve said...


Shoot, these days, getting to 90 is practically routine.

I think you celebrated in the best possible way. Low-key but meaningful! :)

2:01 PM  
Blogger Mother of Invention said...

Congrats on something amazing really. I'm sure you guys will have many more. You have made so many memories together with your kids and all your travels and entertaining friends. You two are surely blessed and a wonderful couple.

Keep on!

3:11 PM  
Blogger media concepts said...

Congratulations, and great job!

3:29 PM  
Blogger Kellyann Brown said...

congrats, congrats, congrats!

My folks just celebrated #55, so they are on their way to your stated #64.

In my 13 years of torturing Mr. R., I am finding that anniversaries mean less than waking up each day being able to harass and annoy the one I LOVE for that day!

I am so happy that you reached the belly-button lint anniversary!

(You do make a handsome couple!)
love, Kellyann

3:42 PM  
Blogger bulletholes said...

Zero= No Limit!
Tell David I said so and that i miss him.

Hey...didn't I see some kind of Cake Website @ Steve's?
I think that picture, if it be a cake, would qualify.

4:12 PM  
Blogger Barbara said...

Thanks, everyone, for your good wishes!

Bulletholes -- I need a translation!

5:35 PM  
Blogger Pauline said...

You celebrated with chocolate - what more is needed! Congratulations on your anniversary. Another 32 should be - erm - a piece of cake?

7:19 PM  
Blogger Gary said...

What a blessing to share your life with someone - how wonderful that you honored the most important thing about this anniversary, one another. Congratulations on your continued happiness through the inevitable ups and downs, trials and dramas, and above all else love and respect. Amazing. I raise my glass (of iced tea) to you both.

7:47 PM  
Blogger Barbara said...

Pauline -- What celebratory meal would be complete without chocolate?!

Gary -- Matching your toast with my raised water glass, thank you!

8:39 PM  
Blogger Ruth D~ said...

This post makes me smile. maybe it is the two of you in the smiling picture. Maybe it is the love that comes through the words. Wither way, I'm smiling at you and congratulating you on doing things right.

10:06 PM  
Blogger Ruth D~ said...

That would be "either" way . . . but I'm sure you knew that, right?

10:07 PM  
Blogger Barbara said...

RuthD -- I sort of like "wither way"! :) We have had our ups and downs over the years, but there is definitely a lot of love between us.

10:19 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I L O V E this picture of the two of you........I miss you both and send you my very best for the next 32 years!

With great affection,

4:06 AM  
Blogger Barbara said...

Kate -- Thanks so much! I miss you too, but trust life out West is working out well for you. I'm sure you like being so close to your family.

10:11 AM  
Blogger mouse (aka kimy) said...

congratulations!!!!! and to the next 32 years! time flies and it such anniversaries are getting more and more common!

hey, I thought you guys were celebrating with a trip to nyc and catching the performance of hair!

what is with this - I hope you can detect the wink and smile as I write this! just keeping you honest...tee hee!
"The conversation the night before had gone something like this:

B: I haven’t gotten you anything for our anniversary.
D: I haven’t either.
B: Not even a card.
D: Me neither.
B: Let’s just agree on dinner, no cards, no presents, OK?
D: Sure."

hugs to you and dave! xxxxx

p.s. lovely photo of you both!

3:29 PM  
Blogger Barbara said...

Mouse -- I think the reason we could justify no frills on the actual day of was the fact that we knew we were off to NYC on Monday. We're really rather practical people, but at least we're both that way...

3:42 PM  
Blogger bozoette said...

Happy belated anniversary!! Here's to celebrating the 64th with chocolate cake too.

2:29 PM  
Blogger d. chedwick said...

this is very belated, but I'm happy for you. I love the photo. Happy Happy.

My late parents were together 36 years, and I met my one and only 27 years ago. We are still blissful. Funny how it works out for some couples.

12:04 AM  

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